A sort of вЂњsex-friendlyвЂќ yoga retreat, it taught me something called orgasmic meditation, which is centered on the woman. John ChappleДЄround the same time, I took workshops at OneTaste, a sexual-education center, which has branches in New York and San Francisco, where I lived at the time. After talking with her husband, she placed an ad online looking for new lovers. Robin Rinaldi was 44 years old when she experimented with an open marriage. We had intercourse twice and, after he left, I felt satiated. We stumbled to the bed, where he turned me onto my hands and knees and took me from behind. On our second date, the following week, he came to my studio after work with a cooler of snacks and some wine. Slim, handsome with glasses and a stylish haircut, he suggested we kiss to test our sexual chemistry. The first lover I met through was a 40-something lawyer called Jonathan*. She placed the ad above on looking for new lovers. Rinaldi was 44 years old when she experimented with an open marriage. Within 24 hours, my inbox offered up 23 prospective suitors. I added: вЂњOur time together will be limited to three dates as I cannot become seriously involved.вЂќ You must be trustworthy, smart, and skilled at conversation as well as in bed.вЂќ Under the heading: вЂњGood girl seeks experience,вЂќ it read: вЂњIвЂ™m a 44-year-old professional, educated, attractive woman in an open marriage, seeking single men age 35-50 to help me explore my sexuality. My first step was placing an ad on, a kind of intellectual version of CraigslistвЂ™s Casual Encounters. It was a case of вЂњdonвЂ™t ask, donвЂ™t tell.вЂќ Both of us could sleep with whomever we chose as long as we used protection. According to our deal, IвЂ™d rent a studio apartment during the week and come back to our home on weekends. вЂњI refuse.вЂќДЄgainst the idea at first, he eventually relented. вЂњI wonвЂ™t go to my grave with no children and four lovers,вЂќ I told him repeatedly. I broke the news to Scott that I wanted an open marriage in early 2008, a few months after his vasectomy.

I was approaching my sexual peak and was relaxing into myself. Sexually, I was experiencing what happens to a lot of women in their late 30s and early 40s. IвЂ™d always been вЂњthe good girl,вЂќ and had slept with only three guys before getting involved with Scott at the age of 26. Many people will find this hard to understand, but, as the door to motherhood closed, I found myself rushing towards this whole other outlet of heightened female experience - taking lovers. But Scott had made it absolutely clear he never wanted a baby, and even had a vasectomy. I was having a midlife crisis and chasing this profound, deeply rooted experience of being female.Д«efore then, starting a family had felt like one route to this elusive state of feminine fulfillment. Stuck in a rut - our once-a-week sex life was loving, but lacked spontaneity and passion - I was craving seduction and sexual abandon. Scenarios like these were typical during my year of living dangerously - the crazy 12 months in 20 I jokingly call my вЂњWild Oats Project,вЂќ when Scott and I had an open marriage. вЂњGood night, dove,вЂќ writes back Scott from wherever he is. Two minutes after heвЂ™s gone, I climb back into bed and text my husband, Scott, whom IвЂ™ve been with for 18 years. Having sex with a stranger is thrilling, but IвЂ™m not that interested in a repeat performance. Rinaldi (pictured on her wedding day) was with her husband for 18 years before deciding she wanted more. вЂњYou really donвЂ™t have to take it,вЂќ I say. Pulling on his pants after our intimate encounter in my Las Vegas hotel room, the cute 23-year-old IвЂ™d just picked up holds out his cellphone, urging me to tap in my number. As she publishes her memoir, вЂњThe Wild Oats Project,вЂќ on Tuesday, she talks to The PostвЂ™s Jane Ridley about her erotic journey. Trapped in a marriage where the sex was routine, freelance journalist Robin Rinaldi, now 50, embarked on a 12-month experiment in which she lived apart from her husband during the week and took lovers.

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